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January 2015

A Few More Questions

Good Morning!

Continuing the questions from this article on getting to know someone better:

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?

I would have to go with mind. My dad had Alzheimer's and boy oh boy, that was awful. I can keep exercising and see almost immediate results (note to self: keep f****** exercising!). And apparently exercising helps you retain a strong brain/mental capacity, but it's harder to know how your brain chemsitry is working on a day to day basis.

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

Hunch? Not so much. Fear? Yes. I worry that since my dad had Alzheimer's, I will too. Not much I can do about it, so I don't really think that much about it. And even though I just turned 48 and am on the downhill side of middle-age (this concept is still mind-boggling to me, btw), I don't really think about dying that much. I think having a young child helps in this department!

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

Kurt and I are "on-time-if-not-early" people. (Thanks the gods for that! One really grating thing to me in the world is people who are consistently late. I will not adjust my arrival time somewhere even when I know the person I'm meeting is going to be 10 minutes late. I will not.) Kurt and I have the same level of un-tidiness around the house. (The chair in our bedroom has an equal number of our clothes draped on it.) We are both pretty chilled out people. It takes A LOT to ruffle our feathers. (I tend to ruffle sooner than Kurt, but still.)

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

There are so many things I'm grateful for, hard to narrow it down to "the most." Being born into my family in Hawaii (and therefore the United States) makes me incredibly lucky. And all the advantages I have had from those two things have given me everything else that I am grateful for: good health, great education (not just institutional) good attitude.

Is that too general of an answer? More specifically I'm grateful that Harper is a sleeper and that she is a pretty chill kid. Not a lot of tantrums, she is calm most of the time, listens most of the time, likes to do things. I can't wait to take her traveling! (See below)

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Ooooh, this is tough because the way I was raised has made me the person I am today and I like, nay love, 99% of the person I am today. The only thing I can really think of is "I wish we could have traveled more" (Hawaii is quite an isolated place, see #2 of this list.) But then again, if we had traveled more would I be as obsessed about traveling as I am today? Maybe, maybe not.

Also, I had a very good upbringing with a lot of advantages. Did I mention Hawaii? (When do I not mention Hawaii?) So there isn't much to complain about. My dad was an alcoholic so that was not great, but again, I was lucky because my parents divorced when I was five and I lived with my mom. And while I don't recommend anyone have alcoholic parents, there are things I used to cope with it that actually make me a better producer.

I guess I wouldn't change a thing.

Questions To Answer

Before texting and social media there was email. Remember email? Remember those email questionaires that used to go around? The fun questions you would send to friends that now get posted soemtimes on your FB wall? I liked those questions. They were interesting ways to find out more about people you knew. Now the quesitons were not terribly deep, more just fun.

But I like answering questions and recently I was pointed to a set of 36 questions to really help you get to know another person. (Hat tip to Sean Bonner for the link.) I read the first few and realized they would make for a good, spontaneous blog session so I stopped reading them and won't until I copy/paste/answer them here.

I won't answer them all in this post, I'll scatter them around. I am curious to see what the questions will be when I get there. Technically I'm more curious to what the answers will be.

Why not answer them yourself? Let's get to know each other better, answer in the comments or on your own blog. I'll start with the first five. Here we go:

1) Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Oooh, tough one right off the bat. So many choices. Plus, maybe it needs a few qualifiers. Anyone living in the world: Bill Clinton popped into my head, so I'll put that down. Historical: Laura Ingalls Wilder or Ben Franklin. Fictional Character: At this very moment it has to be Doctor Who. But ask me again in two days.

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

Yes. As someone who does good things for others.

3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you're going to say? Why?

Only very rarely when I'm hoping to pitch something personal or speaking to someone about my creative projects and need their help.

4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?

Living somewhere in Italy, spending they day playing with Kurt and Harper, writing more pages on whatever project I'm into and cooking a great dinner. (The Italy part is not critical, but it sure will be nice some day soon.)

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

I sing to myself all the time. I was just singing "Every Day is a Winding Road" this afternoon, out loud to myself. I sing to Harper every night before bed. It is the Good Night song that my dad used to sing to me. She sings along with me sometimes and that just melts my heart.

And speaking of Harper, I have to go get her now. Back tomorrow for more questions!

They Say It's My Birthday

It's a new year - 2015 - and a new year - 48. Can't believe that number is assigned to me. Truly. I fee like a total dork most of the time still. How can I be this "mature"? I can definitely feel it in my body, though, and having a three year old really helps with that. (See my previous new year blog post about losing some weight this month!)

Okay and about that weight loss. I'll be honest, it's not going as well as I'd like. I'm down two pounds so far, but with not as much time to my goal. There has still been a lot of comfort eating (for various and specific reasons) and I have to find my way around that kind of eating. It's such a trap that I set for myself and I'm getting tired of it. (But clearly not tired enough to have truly made a change yet. Interesting.)

But let's move on.

January has always been my favorite month, being the new year and birthday time. I like to reflect, I like to review, I like to question, challenge myself. 2010/43 was a big year. I made a goal to pitch a TV show concept to potential producers and I (and my partners) did it! Three times. It was fantastic. Did it get bought? No. But that just means I have to up my goals.

Because I can manifest, people. I can Man - I - Fest!

And I'm lucky. In 2011/44 I got pregnant and had a baby. Without any outside help (other than Kurt of course.)

I'm lucky and I can manifest things. So I need to up my game and really step out.

What is there to be afraid of? NOTHING. Not one thing. Oh I could worry about making an ass of myself, but you know what? I need MORE of that in my life. I play it way too safe all the freakin time. I need to be a great role model for Harper by taking chances and falling on my face and getting up and doing it again until I succeed at the things I'm reaching for.

My gift to myself this year 2015/48 is to step WAY outside my comfort zone and to make more wonderful things happen. I am also considering skateboard lessons.

Happy Birthday to me!

Milestones: Of House Cats and Houses

MouseOn December 30, we said good bye to our cat, Mouse. She was 18 years old and lived her long lucky life indoors, mostly trying to snuggle with Bunny, and not always succeeding.

In the fall of 1996, a friend's alley cat had kittens and since I already had Bunny and was working a million hours at Sony, I thought a new cat would be good for Bunny, so I adopted Mouse. She got her name from the fact that when she was just days old I saw her for the first time and she was grey all over and looked like a little mouse.

It was purely coincidence that I named both cats after other animals.

Mouse was an odd cat. She never slept in your lap or curled up and slept next to you. She liked attention but always seemed riled up and a bit frantic when asking for it. She sort of liked to be petted, but not in the usual cat ways. In her old age she would ask for attention, you would pet her and then she would bite you. That got a little tiresome, I'll be honest.

Bunny151Bunny died about six weeks after Harper was born and poor Mouse grieved heavily for the loss and massive changes in the house. Every night for almost a year she would yowl in the wee small hours of the morning. The first few times I thought something was horribly wrong with her and would leap up and come and see but she would just be sitting in the living room (not unlike that photo above).

She seemed comfortable this last year, though clearly getting quite old. Rather quickly, her heart gave out during the day on the 30th and we made the quick call not to resuscitate. Her time really had come and with average life span of cats at 10-15 years, she had a lot of time on this planet.

We tried to explain to Harper, very directly and honestly, that Mouse had died. Harper didn't seem too interested, just wanted to watch Curious George. But a couple of days later she and I were having breakfast and she told Willoughby not to play with a cat toy. I told Harper it was okay for Willoughby to play with it. Harper said, "It's Mouse's toy." And I said, "But Mouse isn't here any more." She said, "Mouse is in the hospital." And I said, "Well, I took her to the hospital, but Mouse was very old and she was sick and she died." Harper thought about it for a minute then she said, "Can she get a new battery?" That just warmed my heart. I said, "No sweetie, only toys can get new batteries when they die. Animals and people only get one battery." She then moved on to another topic.

Good bye Mouse, thanks for being part of our lives, sorry you only had one battery.

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Another milestone is that January marks 17 years that I've lived in this house. I'm amazed it's been this long already! I'm also amazed that we've made it work all this time with very little change. I'm proud of myself for buying it all those years ago (when houses were affordable!) instead of blowing my down payment on a car. But in those days (like it was 50 years ago) this would have been considered a "starter home" and five years later I would have upgraded to a larger one. But five years later we were already two years married and both freelance, so we made the space work.

Now that there are three of us, the house does seem to be getting smaller and smaller! I have to remind myself to put on my "perspectacles" because we own a house with heating and plumbing and modern appliances in a great school district. Okay okay, but I'd like at least another bathroom soon (now that all three of us are potty trained) and modern sized counters in the kitchen (they are still original to 1938).

The house is cozy and has a working fireplace and sweet period details. I am so glad I found it and bought way back when. Happy anniversary little house!

January 2015


January (in Latin, Ianuarius) is named after Janus, the God of beginnings and transitions; the name has its beginnings in Roman mythology, coming from the Latin word for door (ianua) since January is the door to the year.


Hello New Year! Okay, well it doesn't look that much different than the old one, but my plan is to change that. Not making a list of resolutions, but I do have a few plans and goals. But I'm just going to start with January. A year's worth of goals is a bit overwhelming. I do have long terms goals, but I'm going to focus on short term right now.

January Goals:

1. 185 by January 30th.

When I get on the scale on January 30 it will read 185 (or less). I had been doing well losing weight last year then somehow got wildly off track. In April I was down to 182, heading toward my then goal of 175, then lost my way, went up and down then way up again, ending at 196 right before Christmas. I was really eating and eating and eating. I've been outside of my comfort zone a LOT in 2014 which is good for me, but clearly not good for my figure! So January is about reducing the amount of comfort food I put in my gullet and more about writing and journaling about my lack of comfort. And lots of hot tea. I still have the overall goal of 175, but am going focus on achieving the January goal during January.

2. Take Harper out to eat more often in more diverse places.

I have been using the excuse that she's a toddler, too fidgety to sit still at a restaurant for too long and so we have hardly taken her out. 18 months was great when she would just sit in high chair and play with toys and eat her food. But I really feel like it's time to get those skills going in her, all in age-appropriate venues of course. Luckily there are conveyor belt sushi restaurants and dim sum houses aplenty in LA. The key is that food comes at you right away, no waiting! (We had an attempt at one of the sushi places last night but they were clearly having an off night as next to nothing came past us on the belt.) The longer term goal is to increase the diversity of foods and experiences. But for January, more sushi and dim sum.

3. Spend no time on Facebook.

Facebook is fun, it can be entertaining. But I am letting myself get waaaaaay too distracted by it and am not very good at controlling my time there, not unlike eating too much comfort food. So I'm going to take a break, starting with January to see how I do. I have two scripts to rewrite and don't have time to faff about on Facebook! So if we're friends on FB, you'll see a notice about that shortly.

4. Write more on this blog.

And dovetailing with #3 is to write more on this blog. Almost everything I post on Facebook I can blog about here, so why not. There may not be as many comments or "likes" but I'm anti like-button anyway. Never use it myself. But if I'm a writer who already has this blog, why not just refocus back here? As Harper would say, "Well then, do it!"

That is the bulk of January. Let's DO THIS THING!