Adoption

Infant CPR and First Aid: Piles of Babies!

Saturday was our CPR and First Aid class. Learning CPR (adults, kids and infants) is pretty amazing in that it is so simple. I hope I never get to use it. Aside from the physical lesson, we learned that if someone needs CPR it means they are probably already technically dead. You only give CPR if they aren't breathing and there is no pulse. 

No breathing + No pulse = Dead

Doing CPR only keeps the blood pumping until paramedics (or other help) arrive to use a defibrillator (or drugs) and potentially start their heart again. So don't feel bad if you break a rib.

During the First Aid part, I was glad to know I already knew a lot of stuff. Still learned plenty though. We'll have to take refresher courses at some point. 

After class it was time to stack the babies and put them away.

Babytetris

 

Stack-o-babies
 


Social Worker and Bassinets

This past Wednesday we had our home visit by the social worker. Of course it went just fine and we joked with her about "passing" when we were done. She basically took a tour of the house, made some recommendations about baby-proofing and we talked about where the wee one might live. (Still haven't sorted that out yet.) Then she interviewed us each, separately, about our family histories, brothers/sisters, what was growing up like, how our parents influenced us, etc etc. It was good, easy stuff. Well, explaining my family is never really "easy". "How many brothers and sisters do you have?" That is a loaded question! My dad was married four times. My mom was married three times. There are step and half siblings galore. We got through with lots of laughing and I only cried a little bit.

I was really pleased to realize I know a LOT about the practical stuff around a house with baby. 98% of things she mentioned in regard to baby-proofing and such I already knew. That is what happens when I'm the youngest in the family, everyone had kids a while back and I watched my sisters be moms and adjust their houses accordingly. Same with our friends, we are the last in our immediate group to have kids so we've watched/learned a lot through them too. 

One suggestion she made was a really helpful solution. She suggested a bassinet for il bambino if we don't have a separate room for the wee one right away. I had "crib" in my mind and a much smaller bassinet makes so much sense to be in our bedroom. (We will not be co-sleeping.) Kurt wasn't sure what a bassinet was, exactly, so we googled it and found this:

Bassinet
Oooooh! 

So chic! So moderne! So expensive! At $500 it's a bit (ha!) out of our price range. Hand-me-down or $50 pre-owned is more our speed. And especially for a bassinet - this would work out to something like $100/month of use. But it sure is cool.

At this point we are so focused on fingerprint docs, birth records, medical forms, bank statements, etc etc etc, that actual baby stuff is not in our sights quite yet. That will come...


Spring Cleaning!

April has been a frenzy of many kinds -- script, housecleaning and paper gathering. I can't wait to see what kind of May flowers are to come.

The house is really really clean - in some rooms. The living room is great: took out, dusted and reorganized ALL THE BOOKS! Yes, dusted each frakking one! I gave a bunch a way, loaned a bunch and found new spots for some. The bookshelves look divine now:

Cleanbookshelves 

So tidy. We also moved all of the furniture around so that we could sweep/vacuum/mop beneath it all. We took the area rug outside to beat the crap out of it and let it air. It's still kinda dusty, but at least it's an improvement. (Can't afford to get it professionally cleaned just now.) I dusted every nook and cranny and it looks great. Now we just need to re-cover all the comfy, but a bit tired, furniture.

The Bedroom got similar treatment. All furniture got moved and cleaned from all sides. I banged throw pillows together outside, then let the sun clean them for a few hours. We wrestled the bed and chests of drawers around to get at them from all angles and to vacuum underneath them. I didn't take photos of the PILES of dust underneath because A) too mortified to show you and B) the minute you could see the dust the vacuum was sucking it up.

The Kitchen and Pantry got the treatment as well. Gave away some unused dishes, Kurt went to work on the 50 year old stove (not sure when it was made) and it sparkles now. We also dusted behind stuff that hadn't been dusted behind in ages. Okay years. There, I said it.

The Dining room got half the treatment, but still needs a good mopping and the bar needs to be pared down and cleaned out. The bathroom gets the most regular cleaning so it's in pretty good shape, though the walls could use a bit of a wipe down.

My office and Kurt's office. Well. These are the cleaning staging areas that are neglected the longest. We switched DSL providers and that got finished this week so now it's time to remove extraneous internet tube gear and dust, dust, dust. Plus I have to dust the bookshelf and books in my office and then get all the piles of paper under control. I did tons of shredding last week. I started with three storage boxes like this:

Preshred 

And shredded down to this:

Postshred 

Hard to see, but I promise, those two bottom boxes are empty! There is much more out in our storage spot behind Kurt's office that needs going through, so that is still to come.

The momentum is great and by the end of next week, the whole place will have been cleaned. Poor old house! 

Part of the cleaning in my office will involve finding new homes for some of the furniture and lamps that seem to have ended up in here. It has become the catch all spot and much needs to GO. And go it will.

Love the clean so very much!
 
 

  


Ticking The Boxes

We are working our way through the checklist. Today we did fingerprints or "livescans" to be send to the FBI as well as the state for background checks. Check.

Fingerprinting 

We've received copies of Kurt's birth certificate and our marriage license. Now just waiting on my birth certificate and Kurt's divorce records. My birth certificate comes from Hawaii, of course, and when I went to their site, there is a whole page about Obama and asking for his birth certificate. Oy.

We have copies of our insurance showing that our future bambino is covered.

Kurt went and got his physical and blood and TB tests this week. I'm going in two weeks to a new GP for this. 

We had already written our autobiographies and filled out the application. We also turned in our confidentiality docs. 

We've asked friends for reference letters, so those are (hopefully) in progress. 

We've scheduled our infant CPR and First Aid class for the end of May. (Anyone want to join us?)

Now it's down to financial records, employment statements (ha!) and a letter to the birthmom. 

Next week we have our second interview with the social worker in our house. That is going to be intense as we haven't quite figured out where things will go. I realize we have a bit of time before we need to baby proof and rearrange furniture, but still...daunting in 950 square feet and both of us work at home most of the time.

I've said before, it's hard to get excited in this phase. There are so many little details to deal with, it doesn't feel like it's leading up to a baby yet. But it will. 

We move ever forward!